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		<title>By: jeffery davis</title>
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		<dc:creator>jeffery davis</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Mon, 09 Aug 2010 20:29:35 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>LISA

THATS WHAT IM TALKING ABOUT.
I REALLY ENJOYED READING IT.
MADE ME REALIZE A LOT OF THINGS.  

CREATE LISA CREATE!!!</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>LISA</p>
<p>THATS WHAT IM TALKING ABOUT.<br />
I REALLY ENJOYED READING IT.<br />
MADE ME REALIZE A LOT OF THINGS.  </p>
<p>CREATE LISA CREATE!!!</p>
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		<title>By: Lisa</title>
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		<dc:creator>Lisa</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Sun, 01 Aug 2010 15:08:37 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Thanks for your comment Geoff. I&#039;m happy to report that since the time this post was written things have improved 100%.  So many new opportunities replacing the negative. I&#039;ve restructured my career path a bit and am pretty darn excited about the future again.

Another post you might like (more recent as well) is Design for Good - Design Yourself First.
http://lisamikulski.com/blog/2010/07/08/design-for-good-design-yourself-first/</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Thanks for your comment Geoff. I&#8217;m happy to report that since the time this post was written things have improved 100%.  So many new opportunities replacing the negative. I&#8217;ve restructured my career path a bit and am pretty darn excited about the future again.</p>
<p>Another post you might like (more recent as well) is Design for Good &#8211; Design Yourself First.<br />
<a href="http://lisamikulski.com/blog/2010/07/08/design-for-good-design-yourself-first/" rel="nofollow">http://lisamikulski.com/blog/2010/07/08/design-for-good-design-yourself-first/</a></p>
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		<title>By: Geoff</title>
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		<dc:creator>Geoff</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Fri, 30 Jul 2010 09:43:38 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Fantastic story Lisa accompanied with some great comments.

You&#039;re exactly right, sometimes in life, quitting can be what is needed in order to achieve more and amongst anything else, it is important to be happy! You only live once after all.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Fantastic story Lisa accompanied with some great comments.</p>
<p>You&#8217;re exactly right, sometimes in life, quitting can be what is needed in order to achieve more and amongst anything else, it is important to be happy! You only live once after all.</p>
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		<title>By: Mark Kilburn</title>
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		<dc:creator>Mark Kilburn</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Wed, 21 Jul 2010 11:56:09 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Where I come from that type of client would have been shown the door the fast way.  No guilt, no remorse, no reservations. My clients try to walk on me at work and I mindfully let them know I will not tolerate it, although it is different, I am an employee of a company, not an owner.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Where I come from that type of client would have been shown the door the fast way.  No guilt, no remorse, no reservations. My clients try to walk on me at work and I mindfully let them know I will not tolerate it, although it is different, I am an employee of a company, not an owner.</p>
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		<title>By: Lisa</title>
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		<dc:creator>Lisa</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Wed, 21 Jul 2010 03:09:33 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Really REALLY well said Rich!!</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Really REALLY well said Rich!!</p>
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		<title>By: RICHARD HOLLANT</title>
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		<dc:creator>RICHARD HOLLANT</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Wed, 21 Jul 2010 03:03:28 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>A good friend told me, in the situation you described above, that it&#039;s not quitting... it&#039;s weeding the garden and making room for the plants that matter. We&#039;re in the process of doing that @ the studio. 

I love my roses. They are a ton of work. it&#039;s kind of rediculous considerning all of what I have going on in my life. But... I enjoy the type of work that they present. I&#039;m delighted when they bloom prolifically. I pick beetles off of them one at a time. I fight the urge to over-pamper them during dry times. Delphinium on the other hand...I thought we&#039;d work it out. Great rose companions. Not too hard to tend. For some phenomenological reason, I get no real joy out of them, I resist what it takes to make them well. That makes them a weed in my book. I&#039;ve stopped trying to understand it—it is what it is. I&#039;ve dug them up and given them away to someone who really values them. I&#039;ve got my eye on some ligularia. I hope it works out.

I stopped judging this editting process both in the garden and at work. I trust my instincts. It&#039;s harder with people, however— especially friends. I end up doing the weeding—giving everyone the opportunity to find happiness elsewhere. It takes a lot longer to feel like it was the right decision. A lot longer. 

I&#039;ve had to put a few pets down. It&#039;s really painful. Even though I understand the greater good, giving up on things is sad to me even when I&#039;m convinced it&#039;s the right thing to do.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>A good friend told me, in the situation you described above, that it&#8217;s not quitting&#8230; it&#8217;s weeding the garden and making room for the plants that matter. We&#8217;re in the process of doing that @ the studio. </p>
<p>I love my roses. They are a ton of work. it&#8217;s kind of rediculous considerning all of what I have going on in my life. But&#8230; I enjoy the type of work that they present. I&#8217;m delighted when they bloom prolifically. I pick beetles off of them one at a time. I fight the urge to over-pamper them during dry times. Delphinium on the other hand&#8230;I thought we&#8217;d work it out. Great rose companions. Not too hard to tend. For some phenomenological reason, I get no real joy out of them, I resist what it takes to make them well. That makes them a weed in my book. I&#8217;ve stopped trying to understand it—it is what it is. I&#8217;ve dug them up and given them away to someone who really values them. I&#8217;ve got my eye on some ligularia. I hope it works out.</p>
<p>I stopped judging this editting process both in the garden and at work. I trust my instincts. It&#8217;s harder with people, however— especially friends. I end up doing the weeding—giving everyone the opportunity to find happiness elsewhere. It takes a lot longer to feel like it was the right decision. A lot longer. </p>
<p>I&#8217;ve had to put a few pets down. It&#8217;s really painful. Even though I understand the greater good, giving up on things is sad to me even when I&#8217;m convinced it&#8217;s the right thing to do.</p>
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		<title>By: Amy Graver</title>
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		<dc:creator>Amy Graver</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Wed, 21 Jul 2010 02:10:46 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Well, you know how I feel about this post. Best decision I&#039;ve ever made (other than marrying my husband)! Thanks for the chat today. Very well written. I could insert me for you in that piece and it about says it all.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Well, you know how I feel about this post. Best decision I&#8217;ve ever made (other than marrying my husband)! Thanks for the chat today. Very well written. I could insert me for you in that piece and it about says it all.</p>
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		<title>By: ELO</title>
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		<dc:creator>ELO</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Fri, 11 Jun 2010 22:19:39 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>You are right Lisa if something  is not making  you any good it&#039;s better to quit.We the ones that work in the creation field need to have a fresh and high energy environment to work in. I always believed that there are vampires of energy. People with no light the will come and suck the light out of you. I try to stay away from those as much as I can but somehow I seem to attract them every now and then. Great post!</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>You are right Lisa if something  is not making  you any good it&#8217;s better to quit.We the ones that work in the creation field need to have a fresh and high energy environment to work in. I always believed that there are vampires of energy. People with no light the will come and suck the light out of you. I try to stay away from those as much as I can but somehow I seem to attract them every now and then. Great post!</p>
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		<title>By: Lisa</title>
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		<dc:creator>Lisa</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 17 Dec 2009 15:38:33 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Thanks for sharing your thoughts George and for the support on my decision... it was a hard decision to make, but I&#039;m a lot happier now.  Happy Holidays to you.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Thanks for sharing your thoughts George and for the support on my decision&#8230; it was a hard decision to make, but I&#8217;m a lot happier now.  Happy Holidays to you.</p>
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		<title>By: George Angus</title>
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		<dc:creator>George Angus</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 17 Dec 2009 15:16:54 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Lisa,

Fantastic post.  The way it was written, I could feel the emotional angst.  Good on you for pulling anchor and sailing away.

I had a freelance writing gig that was similar, although not to the intensity that you described.  I found myself stressing and worrying over the next assignment and how it would go.  I would spend way more time than would be profitable on every assignment only to be frustrated at the response.  Finally, I kicked them to the curb and worked on finding other freelance opportunities, which of course did come.

Cheers!

George</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Lisa,</p>
<p>Fantastic post.  The way it was written, I could feel the emotional angst.  Good on you for pulling anchor and sailing away.</p>
<p>I had a freelance writing gig that was similar, although not to the intensity that you described.  I found myself stressing and worrying over the next assignment and how it would go.  I would spend way more time than would be profitable on every assignment only to be frustrated at the response.  Finally, I kicked them to the curb and worked on finding other freelance opportunities, which of course did come.</p>
<p>Cheers!</p>
<p>George</p>
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		<title>By: Justin Snyder</title>
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		<dc:creator>Justin Snyder</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Mon, 07 Dec 2009 16:12:33 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Beautifully Written! 

Quitting, Breaking off Ties, Divorce, These are all terms of the situation in which you are no longer going to be with something that was somewhat of a foundation in your life. Weather good or bad it was consistent and even though it may have been rough at times you know you could handle it even if it was unhealthy. There&#039;s comfort in ones life to hold on to some consistency, especially for the artist who&#039;s only common theme is fueled by &quot;unfamiliar, unrelated and most of all different&quot; 

But do remember this. When looked at correctly or may I say looked at &quot;creatively&quot; There is a beautiful comfort in waking up everyday and not knowing where your day leads you. But you do know this: I will do my best work, I will use my creativeness and my passion to help others, I will learn from each choice I make, and I will make the most of each day knowing that I have no fears, no obligations in which that are not productive for my own progression.  Through this you will find yourself pass the foggiest of bridges and gain so much more through each day that no ONE client, no ONE person, and no one unhealthy relationship can do for you no matter how comfortable and easy it may be to keep around.

With this knowledge we can make walking away from that unhealthy relationship and return that consistency with other comforts that catch our nervousness and fleeting minds: Music, Art and a plethora of new friends, clients, or projects will replace your old comforts with new possibilities, new knowledge, new experiences, and most of all new life!  And through all these new changes to behold, you again will find yourself caught in another unhealthy situation, yet this time you will look back and realize what is now part of your life that would have never been if you never let that last client go. And you will see that there is no way you could let yourself be stuck in a unproductive situation again, because the fact that it may take away from your passion, your creativeness and your refreshing take on a days life is enough of a nervousness in itself to not want to go through that at all.  So please congratulate yourself on a decision well made. Tomorrow when you awake realize the beauty in the unfamiliar, the new, the freedom and the opportunity to be had, and when you fall asleep that days eve you will find your comfort, and your consistency in knowing you get to experience it all over again tomorrow! 

Its a large step to make in a business or personal life Lisa, and I thank you for feeling the comfort in being able to share with us your experience and through it may we all get a little message!

Thanks again,
Justin Snyder/www.pushgallery.com</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Beautifully Written! </p>
<p>Quitting, Breaking off Ties, Divorce, These are all terms of the situation in which you are no longer going to be with something that was somewhat of a foundation in your life. Weather good or bad it was consistent and even though it may have been rough at times you know you could handle it even if it was unhealthy. There&#8217;s comfort in ones life to hold on to some consistency, especially for the artist who&#8217;s only common theme is fueled by &#8220;unfamiliar, unrelated and most of all different&#8221; </p>
<p>But do remember this. When looked at correctly or may I say looked at &#8220;creatively&#8221; There is a beautiful comfort in waking up everyday and not knowing where your day leads you. But you do know this: I will do my best work, I will use my creativeness and my passion to help others, I will learn from each choice I make, and I will make the most of each day knowing that I have no fears, no obligations in which that are not productive for my own progression.  Through this you will find yourself pass the foggiest of bridges and gain so much more through each day that no ONE client, no ONE person, and no one unhealthy relationship can do for you no matter how comfortable and easy it may be to keep around.</p>
<p>With this knowledge we can make walking away from that unhealthy relationship and return that consistency with other comforts that catch our nervousness and fleeting minds: Music, Art and a plethora of new friends, clients, or projects will replace your old comforts with new possibilities, new knowledge, new experiences, and most of all new life!  And through all these new changes to behold, you again will find yourself caught in another unhealthy situation, yet this time you will look back and realize what is now part of your life that would have never been if you never let that last client go. And you will see that there is no way you could let yourself be stuck in a unproductive situation again, because the fact that it may take away from your passion, your creativeness and your refreshing take on a days life is enough of a nervousness in itself to not want to go through that at all.  So please congratulate yourself on a decision well made. Tomorrow when you awake realize the beauty in the unfamiliar, the new, the freedom and the opportunity to be had, and when you fall asleep that days eve you will find your comfort, and your consistency in knowing you get to experience it all over again tomorrow! </p>
<p>Its a large step to make in a business or personal life Lisa, and I thank you for feeling the comfort in being able to share with us your experience and through it may we all get a little message!</p>
<p>Thanks again,<br />
Justin Snyder/www.pushgallery.com</p>
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		<title>By: Lisa</title>
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		<dc:creator>Lisa</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Sun, 06 Dec 2009 05:46:51 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Hey Julie, Thanks for your comment and good wishes.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Hey Julie, Thanks for your comment and good wishes.</p>
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		<title>By: julie susanne</title>
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		<dc:creator>julie susanne</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Sun, 06 Dec 2009 01:14:07 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Great Post!
Sometimes quitting is absolutely appropriate!  Not because it is hard, but because the situation does not serve your highest good.  In this case ending a negative situation may have been the most loving thing you could do for your self.  Congratulations!</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Great Post!<br />
Sometimes quitting is absolutely appropriate!  Not because it is hard, but because the situation does not serve your highest good.  In this case ending a negative situation may have been the most loving thing you could do for your self.  Congratulations!</p>
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