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Comment on I Hate Who I Am When I’m With You by Mark Kilburn

Mark Kilburn — Wed, 21 Jul 2010 11:56:09 +0000

Where I come from that type of client would have been shown the door the fast way. No guilt, no remorse, no reservations. My clients try to walk on me at work and I mindfully let them know I will not tolerate it, although it is different, I am an employee of a company, not an owner.

Comment on I Hate Who I Am When I’m With You by Lisa

Lisa — Wed, 21 Jul 2010 03:09:33 +0000

Really REALLY well said Rich!!

Comment on I Hate Who I Am When I’m With You by RICHARD HOLLANT

RICHARD HOLLANT — Wed, 21 Jul 2010 03:03:28 +0000

A good friend told me, in the situation you described above, that it’s not quitting… it’s weeding the garden and making room for the plants that matter. We’re in the process of doing that @ the studio.

I love my roses. They are a ton of work. it’s kind of rediculous considerning all of what I have going on in my life. But… I enjoy the type of work that they present. I’m delighted when they bloom prolifically. I pick beetles off of them one at a time. I fight the urge to over-pamper them during dry times. Delphinium on the other hand…I thought we’d work it out. Great rose companions. Not too hard to tend. For some phenomenological reason, I get no real joy out of them, I resist what it takes to make them well. That makes them a weed in my book. I’ve stopped trying to understand it—it is what it is. I’ve dug them up and given them away to someone who really values them. I’ve got my eye on some ligularia. I hope it works out.

I stopped judging this editting process both in the garden and at work. I trust my instincts. It’s harder with people, however— especially friends. I end up doing the weeding—giving everyone the opportunity to find happiness elsewhere. It takes a lot longer to feel like it was the right decision. A lot longer.

I’ve had to put a few pets down. It’s really painful. Even though I understand the greater good, giving up on things is sad to me even when I’m convinced it’s the right thing to do.

Comment on I Hate Who I Am When I’m With You by Amy Graver

Amy Graver — Wed, 21 Jul 2010 02:10:46 +0000

Well, you know how I feel about this post. Best decision I’ve ever made (other than marrying my husband)! Thanks for the chat today. Very well written. I could insert me for you in that piece and it about says it all.

Comment on Design for Good – Design Yourself First by Suzi Craig

Suzi Craig — Mon, 12 Jul 2010 13:39:10 +0000

Thank you for sharing a very personal, yet highly relevant, story with all of us Lisa.

There are huge demands on everyone these days — and I am starting to see the value in reevaluating the demands in my life with a critical eye. Last year I stumbled onto the very famous quote by Marianne Williamson that (even though it’s too religious for my tastes), has been the center of how I’ve shifted my life.

It begins with this: “Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us . . .

And here is the rest: http://skdesigns.com/internet/articles/quotes/williamson/our_deepest_fear/

Thanks again Lisa. I now believe doing good begins with doing good for yourself, and it’s great to know I have company.

Comment on Design for Good – Design Yourself First by Pam

Pam — Mon, 12 Jul 2010 13:13:22 +0000

Very thought-provoking Lisa. Thank you.

Comment on Design for Good – Design Yourself First by Wendy McGee

Wendy McGee — Mon, 12 Jul 2010 03:19:18 +0000

I loved the post. Thanks for giving me the heads up. Thank gosh for Lexapro because I am not sure that I could make the 150 demands a day and surface without it!

Comment on Design for Good – Design Yourself First by John

John — Sun, 11 Jul 2010 02:40:24 +0000

I’ll try to be more assertive for me!

Thank you. I do have a conscience but it neglects me.
Me!

Comment on Design for Good – Design Yourself First by Todd

Todd — Fri, 09 Jul 2010 14:41:50 +0000

Awesome post, I love it and you are SO right!

Comment on Design for Good – Design Yourself First by Lisa

Lisa — Fri, 09 Jul 2010 01:45:19 +0000

Hey Faith, Well I don’t quite know what to say. On the one hand I’m so moved that my writing touched you. One the other hand, I didn’t mean to make you cry. But perhaps a certain amount of crying and soul searching is required. It’s never easy but It lets us know something is amiss or maybe in some ways it actually opens our eyes. As I said in the post, I had about 10 crying episodes myself and I don’t think I’m done yet but I’m making remarkable strides in what I think is the right direction. You will too.

Comment on Design for Good – Design Yourself First by Faith

Faith — Thu, 08 Jul 2010 22:48:48 +0000

I noticed on Facebook that Bonnie had commented on your article, because I think she’s a smart woman and you are as well I read it. It made me cry because it nails my world right on the head. I’m glad as hell that you did something to make the change…my change is coming soon and I can’t wait to grab life again and start moving. The past ten years have taken their toll on me and I’m ready to spread my wings and enjoy MY life again.

Comment on Design for Good – Design Yourself First by Lisa

Lisa — Thu, 08 Jul 2010 22:36:14 +0000

Rob, That’s exactly what I’m talking about. I guess the eye-opener for me was that I ignored all the signs until I was completely spent. Don’t let that happen to you, my friend. Take time to dream and make those dreams come true! Even if it’s just baby steps . . . You can do it and you’ll be so happy once you do.

Heidi, Thanks so much for your comment. Let me know how you make out.

Comment on Design for Good – Design Yourself First by Rob

Rob — Thu, 08 Jul 2010 22:14:34 +0000

Some of the wisest advice I’ve heard in awhile. I guess for me, though, it’s finding the time for me. Bewteen the kids, the house, the spouse and making the bills, it’s hard to find time to focus. But at least you’ve inspired me to think about it, and for that I’m grateful.

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Comment on Design for Good – Design Yourself First by Heidi Wirth

Heidi Wirth — Thu, 08 Jul 2010 14:17:28 +0000

So true. It sounds like the me-cation worked to help re-evaluate and re-prioritize. Thank you for the inspiration. I hope to see clearly again and design for good!